Kids Are The Key

This is an article by Deborah Miller an EFT Practitioner in Mexico who donates her time to a local hospital for children with cancer. In this beautiful article which is reproduced with permission, Deborah shares her vision on the importance and benefits of using EFT with children. She also offers a wonderful tapping script for adults to heal their own wounded inner child. Many thanks to Deborah. Her contact details are at the end of the article.

KIDS ARE THE KEY by Deborah Miller, PhD

I’ve come to this conclusion: Kids are the KEY to deep long lasting healing in the human race. If kids are taught how to release their anxieties, fears, and problems before they get fixed in their subconscious and then have more layers put on top of them, imagine how much better their lives will be. Imagine how much suffering they will avoid. Imagine how much more enjoyable life will be because they will know they are divine, worthy, wonderful beings just because they exist. They will have EFT as a tool to help them release any trauma that comes into their lives and to instill positive healthy beliefs.

Here’s an example of how I see this coming about in real life based on the volunteer work I do applying EFT with kids with cancer in a local hospital in Oaxaca, Mexico, where I live. A mother came into the cancer ward with her 5 year old boy for his treatments. She told me that one day she was upset with her son for doing something he shouldn’t have been doing. He immediately started tapping, “Like the lady (me as I taught him how to do EFT) told me, I’m a good kid.” The mother laughed and told her son, “Yes, even if you do things you aren’t supposed to, you are a good boy.” For me, this is a perfect example of empowering a child, giving him the understanding that he is a wonderful person no matter if someone, even his mother, is upset with him. He understands his core self has worth. It allowed his mother to let go of her frustration with her child and see him for the beautiful being he is. For me, this created a new mother/child interact filled with compassion, understanding and love.

We adults are also lucky because we can use the same tool to release the pain and trauma that our own Inner Child suffered and is still carrying. I do a lot of EFT with my clients based exactly on the part of them that is holding a trauma. As the inner child releases that trauma, so much relief is felt. Once that inner child releases the trauma, the adult is free to create a new belief and manifest something better.

See Kids are the KEY, whether physically a child or our own inner child.


Even though I am an adult, I have many parts of myself that are still a little kid, I love myself.

Even though the little kid parts in me still hurt from the painful experiences they had, I’m a great kid, a great girl/boy, a fabulous person, and I love myself completely and profoundly.

Even though that kid part of me still hurts so much, is still carrying the pain, is still making decisions for me based on what was experienced so long ago, and I let it happen because as an adult I still feel that hurt inside of me, I love and forgive myself. No one taught me how to help the little one in me feel better.

I choose to give something back to the little on in me who felt so hurt and misunderstood. I invite him/her to tap along with me.

Side of Eye:
I invite my inner child who got hurt by not understanding adults and what they were saying or doing, to be present, to be heard, to be able to speak about what hurt.

Under the Eye:
I invite my inner child to express those hurts or even better yet to get rid of them. I ask my inner child to put the hurts in a big box. All the hurts go in the big box.

Under the Nose:
I as an adult help my inner child put all those hurts in the big box. We take handfuls of hurts and put them in the box. We don’t even have to examine them. We just put them in the box.

We take the big hurts and the little hurts and put them in the box. We put the ugly ones and the dark ones in the box.

We put the scary ones in the box. I help with those scary ones and put them in the box

Under the Arm:
We gather all the hurts and put them in the box. We put them in the box to get rid of them so they won’t hurt us anymore.

Top of Head:
Once we feel we have all the hurts in the box, we close it up. We put on heavy duty tape and secure it so the hurts can’t come back out.

We are glad that all the hurts are in the box instead of inside of us. It feels good to get rid of those hurts, but we don’t want them to get out and hurt anyone else.

Side of Eye:
We decide we want to get rid of the box. We take the box and bury it. We bury it deep in the ground. We bury it not to avoid it, but to let the Earth transform it. She decomposes it all until nothing is left.

Under the Eye:
Once the Earth decomposes those hurts, everything is used to make something new, something bright and beautiful like a tree, a plant, grass.

Under the Nose:
I like knowing that all my hurts changed from something so ugly to something so beautiful like a plant.

I like that my hurts can’t do any harm anymore. In fact, they are making things beautiful in my world. I stop to enjoy the beauty around me and in me.

In the place where those hurts were, I put beautiful light and love. I feel the love come into my heart and fill it with my favorite color.

Under the Arm:
That color fills me up completely. Love heals me from the inside out. All those hurts are gone and now they are replaced with love. I like that. It makes me feel very good.

Top of Head:
I feel so good now that I’m filled with love. My inner child feels better too. He/she can go off and play with a big smile knowing that the hurts are gone and have been healed with love. There is so much love inside that it is easy to share.


Gift yourself a private session to work on the specific traumas that your inner child experienced. I’ve worked with traumas of all ages even back to the womb and birth. Clearing the younger part of you creates a freedom from the emotional traumas experienced and stored in the pain body, allows you to express your divine self and release the need to repeat those old patterns. The results are amazing. It is guaranteed to change the way you look at life.

Contact me for a private session by email at:


I am gifting my time with a group of children with cancer at a local hospital. I am using Tappy Bear, a stuffed bear with the tapping points on him. The kids love him. The results with EFT have been remarkable.

If you would like to donate to the project please contact me. People are donating a Tappy Bear, toys, books, games, and/or money to help these children feel better.

Tapping with these children has been one of the most incredible experiences I’ve ever had.

Contact me by email at: to give a donation.
Deborah Miller, PhD
Oaxaca, Mexico
Mexico phone: +52 951 515 3332
US phone: 713 893 3440