Kids Are The Key

This is an article by Deborah Miller an EFT Practitioner in Mexico who donates her time to a local hospital for children with cancer. In this beautiful article which is reproduced with permission, Deborah shares her vision on the importance and benefits of using EFT with children. She also offers a wonderful tapping script for adults to heal their own wounded inner child. Many thanks to Deborah. Her contact details are at the end of the article.

KIDS ARE THE KEY by Deborah Miller, PhD

I’ve come to this conclusion: Kids are the KEY to deep long lasting healing in the human race. If kids are taught how to release their anxieties, fears, and problems before they get fixed in their subconscious and then have more layers put on top of them, imagine how much better their lives will be. Imagine how much suffering they will avoid. Imagine how much more enjoyable life will be because they will know they are divine, worthy, wonderful beings just because they exist. They will have EFT as a tool to help them release any trauma that comes into their lives and to instill positive healthy beliefs.

Here’s an example of how I see this coming about in real life based on the volunteer work I do applying EFT with kids with cancer in a local hospital in Oaxaca, Mexico, where I live. A mother came into the cancer ward with her 5 year old boy for his treatments. She told me that one day she was upset with her son for doing something he shouldn’t have been doing. He immediately started tapping, “Like the lady (me as I taught him how to do EFT) told me, I’m a good kid.” The mother laughed and told her son, “Yes, even if you do things you aren’t supposed to, you are a good boy.” For me, this is a perfect example of empowering a child, giving him the understanding that he is a wonderful person no matter if someone, even his mother, is upset with him. He understands his core self has worth. It allowed his mother to let go of her frustration with her child and see him for the beautiful being he is. For me, this created a new mother/child interact filled with compassion, understanding and love.

We adults are also lucky because we can use the same tool to release the pain and trauma that our own Inner Child suffered and is still carrying. I do a lot of EFT with my clients based exactly on the part of them that is holding a trauma. As the inner child releases that trauma, so much relief is felt. Once that inner child releases the trauma, the adult is free to create a new belief and manifest something better.

See Kids are the KEY, whether physically a child or our own inner child.

THE KIDS WITHIN US

Even though I am an adult, I have many parts of myself that are still a little kid, I love myself.

Even though the little kid parts in me still hurt from the painful experiences they had, I’m a great kid, a great girl/boy, a fabulous person, and I love myself completely and profoundly.

Even though that kid part of me still hurts so much, is still carrying the pain, is still making decisions for me based on what was experienced so long ago, and I let it happen because as an adult I still feel that hurt inside of me, I love and forgive myself. No one taught me how to help the little one in me feel better.

Eyebrow:
I choose to give something back to the little on in me who felt so hurt and misunderstood. I invite him/her to tap along with me.

Side of Eye:
I invite my inner child who got hurt by not understanding adults and what they were saying or doing, to be present, to be heard, to be able to speak about what hurt.

Under the Eye:
I invite my inner child to express those hurts or even better yet to get rid of them. I ask my inner child to put the hurts in a big box. All the hurts go in the big box.

Under the Nose:
I as an adult help my inner child put all those hurts in the big box. We take handfuls of hurts and put them in the box. We don’t even have to examine them. We just put them in the box.

Chin:
We take the big hurts and the little hurts and put them in the box. We put the ugly ones and the dark ones in the box.

Collarbone:
We put the scary ones in the box. I help with those scary ones and put them in the box

Under the Arm:
We gather all the hurts and put them in the box. We put them in the box to get rid of them so they won’t hurt us anymore.

Top of Head:
Once we feel we have all the hurts in the box, we close it up. We put on heavy duty tape and secure it so the hurts can’t come back out.

Eyebrow:
We are glad that all the hurts are in the box instead of inside of us. It feels good to get rid of those hurts, but we don’t want them to get out and hurt anyone else.

Side of Eye:
We decide we want to get rid of the box. We take the box and bury it. We bury it deep in the ground. We bury it not to avoid it, but to let the Earth transform it. She decomposes it all until nothing is left.

Under the Eye:
Once the Earth decomposes those hurts, everything is used to make something new, something bright and beautiful like a tree, a plant, grass.

Under the Nose:
I like knowing that all my hurts changed from something so ugly to something so beautiful like a plant.

Chin:
I like that my hurts can’t do any harm anymore. In fact, they are making things beautiful in my world. I stop to enjoy the beauty around me and in me.

Collarbone:
In the place where those hurts were, I put beautiful light and love. I feel the love come into my heart and fill it with my favorite color.

Under the Arm:
That color fills me up completely. Love heals me from the inside out. All those hurts are gone and now they are replaced with love. I like that. It makes me feel very good.

Top of Head:
I feel so good now that I’m filled with love. My inner child feels better too. He/she can go off and play with a big smile knowing that the hurts are gone and have been healed with love. There is so much love inside that it is easy to share.

GIFT FOR YOUR INNER CHILD

Gift yourself a private session to work on the specific traumas that your inner child experienced. I’ve worked with traumas of all ages even back to the womb and birth. Clearing the younger part of you creates a freedom from the emotional traumas experienced and stored in the pain body, allows you to express your divine self and release the need to repeat those old patterns. The results are amazing. It is guaranteed to change the way you look at life.

Contact me for a private session by email at: ddmiller7@findthelightwithin.com

GIFT FOR KIDS WITH CANCER

I am gifting my time with a group of children with cancer at a local hospital. I am using Tappy Bear, a stuffed bear with the tapping points on him. The kids love him. The results with EFT have been remarkable.

If you would like to donate to the project please contact me. People are donating a Tappy Bear, toys, books, games, and/or money to help these children feel better.

Tapping with these children has been one of the most incredible experiences I’ve ever had.

Contact me by email at: ddmiller7@findthelightwithin.com to give a donation.
Deborah Miller, PhD
Oaxaca, Mexico
Mexico phone: +52 951 515 3332
US phone: 713 893 3440
mailto:ddmiller7@findthelightwithin.com

http://www.FindTheLightWithin.com

Tapping Circles Start up Guide

This “Tapping Circles Start Up Guide” is part of the “Kids Tapping Survival Guide” a series of resources that complement the “Tapping For Kids” book and help support kids newly acquired tapping skills. Click here to buy the book.

An excellent way to practice tapping, get rid of your stress and share what you have learnt with others is to form a tapping circle.

What is a tapping circle?

A group of people (of any age) getting together with the purpose of tapping as a group on a shared problem or issue. A tapping circle may be a group of friends, neighbors, family members, a team, club or a class of students. For instance, you may decide to set up a tapping circle with a group of other students in your class who are worried about a test that is coming up or other players in your sports team – before and/or after a game to release nerves etc. You could from a tapping circle with others from your club or youth group.

Who can set up a tapping circle?

Anyone who has learnt how to tap can start a tapping circle by inviting their friends, neighbors, family, other students, team members etc

How do I set up a tapping circle?

Just put the word out! A tapping circle can be very informal. Set a time and place, such as at school during lunchtime and invite anyone who may be interested. You can put up a poster at school or you can just tell people.

How often and where do we meet?

As a group you may only meet once for a specific issue or decide to meet regularly. It can be for 15 minutes a day or once a week, it’s up to the group to decide.

What do we do in a tapping circle?

Here are some suggestions…

It’s a good idea to sit in a circle, so that everyone can see each other. Make everyone feel welcome.

Make sure everyone knows where the tapping points are. Start with just a round of tapping on all the points. You can bring along a “Tapping For Kids” Poster which shows the tapping points and how to apply the “Magic Formula For Feeling Better.”

One person in the group can lead the others through these steps…

Step 1: Pick a problem. E.g. test nerves

Step 2: ‘Tune in’ to the problem by thinking about it or playing a movie of it in your mind

Step 3: Rate the emotion using your feel-o-meters

Step 4: Say a set up like “Even though (I have this problem), I’m still a great kid.” Say this 3 times while you tap on your karate chop.

Step 5: While thinking about your problem, tap on your happy buttons starting from the Chimney Top all the way to the Tarzan thump.

Step 6: Rate the emotion again using your feel-o-meters.

Step 7: If your rating has gone all the way down that means you are feeling a whole lot better. If your rating has not gone all the way down, then just start again and keep tapping on what is left, until your rating goes all the way down.

REMEMBER no-one needs to actually say what their problem is if they don’t want to, but as a group you can come up with and write down a list of shared problems that the whole group can tap on together.

For example if there is a test that is coming up that you are all worried about, everyone can have a turn (if they want to) to say what is upsetting them. Some issues raised by the group might be:

· I feel nervous about this test
· I’m sacred I’ll run out of time
· I’m worried I’ll forget everything
· I hate tests
· I’m no good at tests
· I’m scared I’ll fail

You can then apply the “Magic Formula For Feeling Better” to each of these problems.

“Even though I feel nervous about this test I’m still a great kid and I choose to stay clam and relaxed”

“Even though I’m sacred I’ll run out of time I’m still a great kid and I choose to stay clam and relaxed”

“Even though I hate tests I’m still a great kid and I do the best I can”

“Even though I’m no good at tests, I’m still a great kid and I do the best I can”

“Even though I’m scared I’ll fail I’m still a great kid and I choose to stay clam and relaxed”

Other suggestions

You can also use the tapping scripts and audios from the “Tapping For Kids” book for your group if you choose.

From the book…

“So let’s say you are worried and scared about all the horrible things that are happening in the world and you know other kids at school who are feeling the same. You could all get together at morning playtime or at lunch and sit in a circle in the playground tapping on all your worries and fears. You could put all your worries and fears into the Big Green Recycle Bag and use the Worry Workout Tapping Script.”

Where can I go to for help?

Visit the www.tappingforkids.com kids tapping resources section for more information and resources.

Angie Muccillo BA EFT-ADV
Author of Tapping For Kids
Advanced EFT Practitioner
Melbourne, Australia

+61417 391 055

The TapMeister’s Top 12 Tapping Tips For Kids

 

These Top 12 Tapping Tips For Kids are part of the “Kids Tapping Survival Guide” a series of resources that complement the “Tapping For Kids” book and help support kids newly acquired tapping skills. Click here to buy the book.

Tapping Tip #1
The trick to feeling happy and calm is to tap on your “Happy Buttons” anytime you feel hurt, lonely, sad, nervous, worried or angry.

Tapping Tip #2
Memorize the “Magic Formula For Feeling Better” and practice using it everyday

Tapping Tip #3
Use your feel-o-meter before and after tapping to see how much your feelings have changed.

Tapping Tip #4
Tap on each tapping point or “Happy Button” about 7 times

Tapping Tip #5
“Tune in” to your problem and tap. Just think about it and tap.

Tapping Tip #6
“Play a movie” of your problem in your mind and tap. This is like making a Silent Movie of your problem and tapping while you play the movie in your mind. This is a handy tip if you don’t like to talk about your problems or don’t have anyone to talk to about your problems. This is a way of helping yourself whenever you need it most.

Tapping Tip #7
Tap on all the different parts of the problem like separate pieces of a puzzle

Tapping Tip #8
If after one round of tapping, you still feel some of the upset feeling, do another round of tapping. “Tune in” to whatever upset is still left and tap on that.

Tapping Tip #9
Whenever you finish tapping remember to take a long deep breath, filling up your belly until you see it expand! Remember this helps get your energy moving!

Tapping Tip #10
The number one trick to having high self esteem is to tap on and ERASE all the words, names and things people say to you that make you feel bad about yourself.

Tapping Tip #11
The number two trick to having high self esteem is to REPLACE these words by generating your very own words that make you feel good about yourself instead. That’s how you generate your own esteem.

Tapping Tip #12
Tap every night before you go to sleep. Just ‘tune in’ to anything that upset you during the day and tap on your happy buttons until you feel peaceful and calm and sleepy. You get a great night’s sleep that way and you wake up feeling happier and more energized.

Angie Muccillo BA EFT-ADV
Author of Tapping For Kids
Advanced EFT Practitioner
Melbourne, Australia

+61417 391 055

Emotional First Aid for Children – EFT to The Rescue

While many of the physical wounds of childhood like scraped knees, broken bones and bruises heal and repair in time, a child’s deep emotional hurts can stay with them for much longer and if unresolved can certainly go on to affect a person’s developing self esteem and relationships with those around them.

“Stick and stones can break my bones but words can REALLY hurt me.” Words do stick, as do children’s impressions and interpretations of these words and actions (or lack thereof). Children who are equipped with EFT, have at their disposal an emotional first aid kit for repairing and healing their emotional wounds when they occur. Sometimes in the acquisition of a “physical wound” is an underlying story or emotional trauma that can be repaired with EFT. Listening to and tapping on the event that caused the child’s physical wound can reveal and heal the emotional wounds gained in the process.

Aisha is an 8 year who scraped her knee at school after falling over. I was visiting with her and her mother when she started complaining about the pain in her knee. I asked her if she wanted to tap for her scraped knee to help it get better quicker. We started with

Even though I fell over and scraped my knee, I’m still a great kid

Then I asked her what had happened to get the scraped knee. This is when she launched into a story about how her and her best friend were racing to get to a teacher on the playground first. In the process Aisha fell over, while the other girl kept running, reaching the teacher first. I then asked her, how that made her feel and we consequently tapped on..

Even though it hurt that she didn’t stop to help me when I feel over….

Event though she doesn’t care about me because she kept running….

Even though she should’ve looked back to see if I was ok…

At the beginning of the tapping the hurt and disappointment she felt were at a 10. She was clearly upset about it and the image of the incident was vivid in her mind. The emotional trauma – the hurt and disappointed was much greater than the fact that she’d hurt her knee. After several rounds of tapping on all the aspects that upset her about the incident, she no longer felt the hurt and realized that her friend does care and maybe she hadn’t seen her fall over. This is a wonderful cognitive shift that occured spontaneously as happens often when EFT is applied to an emotional issue.

Was this a major incident? Perhaps not in the eyes of an adult but to Aisha this was a big deal that not only affected her friendship but dampened her otherwise high spirits. These incidences happen every day in our homes, in the schoolyard and at play. Who knows if she would have gone on to forget about it in time, but by tapping on it now while it was fresh, she had the chance to patch up and close this otherwise gaping emotional wound, which may have remained open and vulnerable for who knows how long. Instead she was able to genuinely, quickly and easily move on from the incident, restoring a balanced picture of the incident, herself and her friend.

I suggested to her that she use tapping as “First Aid” anytime she gets hurt by tapping on the event that caused the injury. She thought that was a great idea!!

In my opinion EFT is a life skill that no child should be without! “Tapping For Kids” is my first book and is inspired by a strong desire to put EFT into the hands of young people as a tool to help them overcome their fears, worries and everyday traumas as well as build their self-esteem. This book is an essential resource for any parent, educator, counselor or anyone interested in teaching children how to use EFT to manage their emotions and release everyday traumas.

Help do something special for the children in your world and put a copy of this book into their hands.
Angie Muccillo BA EFT-ADV
Author of Tapping For Kids
Advanced EFT Practitioner
Melbourne, Australia

+61417 391 055

Tapping For Kids Guide For Teachers and Parents

If you are a teacher or parent interested in using “Tapping For Kids” as a learning tool, here is further information about the book’s structure and purpose. Click here for the book’s Table Of Contents.

Tapping for kids combines a series of sub lessons throughout the story that gives children a solid foundation and builds their understanding of EFT. Each level of the Healing High Rise presents a new lesson/concept and corresponding activity, rhyme and tapping script providing experiential learning in the benefits of EFT.

Here’s an explanation of the different sub lessons used in the book.

It all begins on the Ground Floor of the healing highrise..

On the Ground Floor of the Palace High Rise is the Energy Room where kids learn the fundamental principles of energy and the body’s energy system. An exercise in making an energy ball allows children to FEEL their own internal energy system and helps explain how energy travels through the body via meridians. Concepts such as “chi” and “meridians” are explained using metaphor and a poem to help children understand how negative emotions become stuck and can be released through tapping.

On The 1st Floor of the Healing High Rise is The Activation Room where the children learn to find and activate their “Magic Happy Buttons” using the magical wands at their fingertips.

“Happy Buttons, boys and girls are special spots on your body that you can tap on with your fingertips…Happy Buttons can be used any time you want to turn unhappy emotions and feelings into happy ones! That’s where our Magic Wands come in veerrry handy!”

The “Happy Button Rap” is a rhyme to help children remember the EFT tapping points and is accompanied by illustrations to help children identify the location of the tapping points. The Happy Button Rap along with all the other rhymes in the book will be made available as audios so that children can listen to them and follow along. In a teaching or children’s group setting, the audio can be played while the teacher or group leader leads the tapping demonstration.

The Happy Button Rap!

“Happy buttons are easy to find
Once I know how
I can use them anytime!

The first spot to remember is the Karate Chop
Tapping with the side of my hand
I just let it drop!

To the top of my head
It’s The Chimney Top
I can let off steam
When I tap on this spot!

Onto the High Brow
At the beginning of my brow
Near the centre of my face
I get it now…

Next is the Sigh Brow
To the side of the eye
Where my brow ends
I can let out a sigh!

It’s time for the Low Brow
Just below my eye
When I tap on this spot
I feel a little high!

Under my nose
And above my lip
It’s an easy spot to tap
Can you feel the dip?

Now onto my chin
And below my lip
When I tap this spot
I almost start to grin!

The Tarzan Thump
At the centre of my chest
I can pound this spot
To feel my best!

When I slap with my palms
Under each of my arms
Do I look like a monkey?
Who cares I feel calm!”

Once the children have learnt the basics of energy and know where to tap, they move onto to the Dial Up Room on the next floor where their lesson includes making a feel-o-meter to measure the temperature of their feelings. This particular exercise was created by EFT Practitioner Eddie Brady. He was generous enough to allow me to use his inventive concept in the book. He has used it successfully with many children. You can visit his website at http://www.breakingfree.biz..

As they continue to move up to the higher floors, the corresponding chapters include a series of exercises or emotional “workouts” where the children put their magic wands to use by following specialized tapping scripts to “workout” their anger, worries and sadness. Creative exercises such as the “Big Green Recycle Bag Full of Worries” can be used as a regular class (or home) activity say once a week to allow children to release their built up worries. This exercise involves drawing or writing their worries on green worry tags that are then recycled. An accompanying tapping script is used with this exercise. Other exercises include an “Anger Workout” and “Sadness Workout.”

Before each “workout” the TapMeister asks the children to share what sort of things make them feel angry, sad, worried or afraid. This helps children who are reading the story to identify the types of issues they can tap on themselves. It also teaches children how to “tune in” to their problems, “an important trick of the tapping trade!”

Higher up in the Palace High Rise is a section on self esteem. In the Esteem Generator Room, the children learn how to become their own esteem generators. Following an explanation of self esteem and a comparison of the difference between low self esteem and high self esteem, the children are asked to think about how they feel when someone says something about them that makes them feel bad about themselves versus how they feel when someone says something about them that makes them feel good about themselves.

This lesson is about how to “erase” the “names” or labels that children pick up from people around them that can lead to low self esteem and teaches them a way to “replace” them by tapping on positive statements about themselves as a way of generating their own esteem rather than accepting the ones that have been written on their walls by others. Using a creative rhyming set up, kids can use this tapping script daily to really help their esteem “soar higher and higher.”

The Esteem Generator Rap is a poem used to help children understand how to build their own esteem from within, rather than accepting the negative labels imposed by others. This is a self empowering and healthy message for children to hear and practice. Practiced as often as possible this technique can help children maintain a healthy self esteem and positive regard for themselves, which in turn provides a solid foundation for entering the teen years and adulthood. Children can tap to this one.

The Esteem Generator Rap!

To help my esteem soar higher and higher
I will tap while I think about what makes me feel better
So when I feel down bout what someone has said
I turn on my Esteem Generator
And find better words
To fill up my head

I focus on what I CAN do
Rather than not
And I start to remember
All the things I am good at

“I am a great kid”
“I do the best I can”
“I am loving and caring”
“I know I am”

“I am beautiful and strong”
“And I love who I am”
“I am peace and calm”
“That’s who I really am”

The Practice Room is on the 7th floor where children are encouraged to put their inner powers into practice everyday.

“In this next practice lesson, you will learn that the real magic happens when you start to practice tapping everyday. The trick is to try it on everything! If something bothers you, then tap on it! You’ll be glad you did!”

It begins with “The Magic Formula For Feeling Better” which is a full step by step summary of the tapping process. Concepts raised in this chapter include an explanation of “problems as puzzles” teaching children to tap on all the aspects of a problem and encouragement to Try It On Everything! Other topics discussed include “Bed Time Tapping” , “Tapping on Teddy” “Teaching Others to Tap” and introduces the idea of setting up “Tapping Circles and Tapping Buddies.” All of these are strategies to encourage and promote daily use of EFT. These concepts could be easily built incorporated into a school tapping program

You can re-visit the Practice Room in the book as often as you like as a revision chapter and to reinforce the process.

In the final chapter the kids graduate from the Palace of Possibilities and are presented with a certificate and a parting gift – The Kids Tapping Survival Guide which is a pack full of resources designed to accompany the book and support continued tapping. A Graduation After Party sees the kids dance, laugh and sing, celebrating the discovery of their new found inner powers.

Click here to buy the book.

Angie Muccillo BA EFT ADV
Advanced EFT Practitioner
Author of Tapping For Kids
Melbourne Australia

+61 417391055

Empowering Kids To Tap On Their Own

By Angie Muccillo

Author of Tapping For Kids

While EFT is an ideal tool for parents and teachers to use directly with children, there may be times in a child’s life when teachers, parents or other adults are the actual source of stress for the child. Children who have been taught to tap on their own have the freedom to tap on whatever is bothering them at the time including an upset at home or at school, without having to rely directly on an adult to help them sort the issue out. EFT allows children to overcome daily upsets so that they don’t build into bigger problems.

Sometimes due to fear, shame, guilt or anger children simply won’t discuss their issues with adults. Children get angry at their parents for all sorts of things, even if the relationship is a close and loving one. Sometimes this anger is overtly displayed in their behavior or other times you may not know they are angry with you but it may play out in disruptive way.

If as a parent, your child is angry at you for something you said or did or didn’t do and you are aware of it, it’s harder to get them to tap with you and they are less likely to listen to you because they are angry with you. The child who has learnt to tap on their own however, without the help or prompting of an adult will more likely tap on their anger towards their parent and resolve the issue rather than hang on to it, restoring peace and harmony. If the child can neutralize their anger towards you, their behavior towards you will likely change of it’s own accord, making everybody’s life easier!

Tapping can strengthen the bond between children and their parents or students and their teachers by neutralizing the underlying negative feelings that contribute to the problem. For instance an 8 year old I recently taught EFT to, was intimidated by her teacher and fearful of him, due to outbursts he had in the classroom with regards to another student. Even though she wasn’t the one “in trouble” her fear of him affected how she felt in class and she was constantly worried that she would do something to upset him. Of course the teacher could not have known this and whilst he was doing the best he could to handle a disruptive student, his behavior was interpreted by her as intimidating and frightening.

Her anxiety being in his class was increasing and affecting her school work and she was becoming increasingly anxious about “making a mistake” and “getting into trouble.” The fear of her teacher was at a 9 when we started and went down to a zero after tapping several rounds on how he made her feel. She also tapped on the original incident where the boy was dragged out of class by the teacher. We also tapped on her fear of making a mistake and getting into trouble. She no longer felt the fear and was no longer worried about the incident. I suggested that she tap each day after school on any remaining or new fears, worries that she had about this teacher. She now has the ability to release these feelings on her own. The benefit of this? A more relaxed school experience, less pressure and stress, greater confidence and the possibility of seeing her teacher in a different light, improving not only her classroom experience but quite possibly the teacher/student relationship as well. If allowed to spiral out of control, her fear may have continued to affect her school work. With EFT as an intervention this cycle was stopped in it’s tracks and without the fear, worry and stress, a more conducive learning experience was possible.

As parents, teachers and guardians we simply cannot know everything that is bothering a child or how an event affects them emotionally. Passing this skill onto our children empowers them to use it whenever or for whatever issue is bothering them even when the source of the stress is someone they love.

In my opinion EFT is a life skill that no child should be without! “Tapping For Kids” is my first book and is inspired by a strong desire to put EFT into the hands of young people as a tool to help them overcome their fears, worries and everyday traumas as well as build their self-esteem. This book is an essential resource for any parent, educator, counselor or anyone interested in teaching children how to use EFT to manage their emotions and release everyday traumas.

Angie Muccillo
Author of Tapping For Kids
Advanced EFT Practitioner
Melbourne, Australia

angiemuccillo@gmail.com

+61417 391 055

Handling Your Child’s Emotional Crises With EFT

By Angie Muccillo Author of Tapping For Kids

When your child comes to you in an uncontrollable fit of anger following an incident at school for example, how do you respond or handle the situation?

Do you get angry yourself?
Do you offer reassurance and try to clam your child down with soothing words?
Do you listen to their story?
Do you try and distract them from their emotions with another activity?
Do you try and offer solutions or help them come up with their own?
Do you dismiss it because in your eyes they are overacting?
Do you feel frustrated and powerless because you haven’t a clue what to do?

These might be some of the ways parents respond to a child who is in the middle of an emotional crisis. As parents who have experienced this scenario would probably know, it can take quite some time to get your child to calm down and furthermore resolve the issue, even with a lot of attention and guidance from you. If left alone to ‘work it out’, the child might internalize that anger, without having an appropriate means of releasing it. Sometimes parents don’t have the time, energy and resources to handle a child in crisis. With EFT as an intervention, your child’s emotional crisis can be dealt with in the moment and can be diffused within minutes.

For parents who have not heard of EFT, it is a remarkable energy technique for safely and naturally releasing negative emotions by tapping on various acupressure points on the body and can be used to effectively handle your child’s emotional crises and at the same time diffuse and calm your own reactions – making it an empowering method for both children and parents. With the application of EFT your child’s emotional state can be transformed from screaming and yelling, crying or panicking one minute to peaceful, calm and happy the next.

A mother recently told me about her 7 year old daughter who came home from school one day in such a fury over an incident with a boy, that she was not only totally taken aback by her daughter’s intense anger and hatred towards the boy, but also at a loss as to how to calm her down. Talking it through simply didn’t work and seemed to make her more and more angry. I spoke to the mother about how EFT could have been used as an intervention to release the anger on the spot and help her daughter to calm down, with a strong chance of even forgetting about the matter altogether. As a parent this would have saved her many hours of frustration, since nothing she tried would calm her daughter down.

When a child (or adult) is angry, according to EFT theory, what really occurs is a disruption in the body’s energy system and clearing the disruption by tapping certain acupressure points brings about instant stress relief. In children this appears to happen quite rapidly. I have used EFT with both children and adults and marvel at how children resolve their issues far more rapidly. After tapping a few rounds on an issue that is upsetting them, children will often lose the charge surrounding the issue so that it no longer has a strong emotional pull, leaving them free to get on with playing, having fun and enjoying their precious childhood years.

Let’s imagine now, that your child has learned to tap for themselves and they approach you in a fit of anger. To help your child calm down you could:

Listen to their story and remind them to start tapping as they continue to tell you about what is upsetting them. Remaining neutral, simply LISTEN (without reaction or judgment) and encourage them to tap until they have finished telling you their story. At the end of their story, ask the question: what is upsetting you most about this now? Continue to listen as the child tells you what is upsetting them most. Within a few minutes of tapping it is likely that the anger they felt before they started tapping has been significantly reduced and all you had to do was listen and remind them to tap.

A child who has been properly skilled up in EFT may in future tap on their own and you might only hear the tail end of the story, after which they tapped on it may not be as dramatic or profound. There are also those cases when children won’t talk about what is upsetting them but if they know how to apply EFT themselves they can tap on what is bothering them and release the emotion rather than bottling it up or suppressing it.

Childhood can certainly be a turbulent time but with EFT we can equip children with a simple tool to help them manage their own emotions in times of crisis. Teaching children to tap is not only an excellent way to help them deal with everyday emotional traumas but also prevents the emotional scars of childhood from sticking around until adulthood. In addition, a child who uses EFT everyday strengthens their personal resilience and enhances their emotional intelligence.

In my opinion EFT is a life skill that no child should be without! That is why I have written a book that provides children with a thorough introduction to EFT. “Tapping For Kids” is a children’s EFT book designed to teach 7-11 year olds how to use EFT as a tool to help them overcome their fears, worries everyday traumas as well as build their self-esteem. Click here for more information about the book.

If you would like to know more about how EFT can help children change their emotional state and deal with childhood traumas both big and small, visit the World Centre for EFT’s Children Section to read about how other parent’s, teachers and counselors have used EFT as an effective intervention.

Angie Muccillo
Author of Tapping For Kids
Advanced EFT Practitioner
Melbourne, Australia

angiemuccillo@gmail.com

+61417 391 055

Together We Can Do Something Very Special For Our Children..

“Together we can do something very special for our children. When I say our children I don’t just mean those who grow up in our individual households and carry around our last names. I mean the children of the world–everyone’s children. I’m talking about the little folks of today who become the big folks of tomorrow and influence the direction of this planet”

Gary Craig Founder of EFT

http://www.emofree.com/Children/garymessage.htm

This website is a resource site dedicated to teaching and encouraging kids to use EFT in their every day lives to help them transform their negative emotions and achieve greater inner peace and calm. Tapping for kids is both an initiative and an intervention that aims to encourage and support a worldwide kids tapping “movement.”

Cultivating emotional intelligence in kids builds inner strength, resilience and more peace and happiness. EFT is an ideal tool for helping children increase their emotional intelligence and live happier lives, by giving them a simple tool they can use everyday to change the way they feel.

In my opinion EFT is a life skill that no child should be without! “Tapping For Kids” is my first book and is inspired by a strong desire to put EFT into the hands of young people as a tool to help them overcome their fears, worries and everyday traumas as well as build their self-esteem. This book is an essential resource for any parent, educator, counselor or anyone interested in teaching children how to use EFT to manage their emotions and release everyday traumas.

Common Childhood Issues Relieved with EFT

• Test Anxiety & Performance
• Fear
• Phobias
• Bedwetting
• Nightmares
• Sleep Problems
• Stress
• School Problems
• Sports Anxiety Performance Fears
• Learning Difficulties
• Self-Esteem

Help do something special for the children in your world and put a copy of this book into their hands.

Click here for more information about the book.

For more information about the official launch of “Tapping For Kids” send an email to angiemuccillo@gmail.com

Angie Muccillo
Author of Tapping For Kids
Advanced EFT Practitioner
Melbourne, Australia

+61417 391 055